Self-Care Interview with Julia, Founder of Soomish
"A turning point for me was a time that I’ve become a mum. I was so focused on looking after my kids I forgot to look after myself. When I got to the point, where I was so exhausted I couldn’t be a mum my kids deserve, I realised something must change."
Soomish was founded by Julia in 2019 in Hertfordshire. The love for natural, simple and minimalistic things inspired Julia to create her own candles with the best ingredients to bring comfort and relaxation to your space.
Soomish candles have been developed using formulas that have been tested to perfection for months by family and friends. Handcrafted in small batches using only the finest quality 100% natural plant based wax infused with blends of fragrance and essential oils.
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What does self-care mean to you?
For me self-care means living a healthy lifestyle. A healthy lifestyle that focuses not only on physical activities and healthy diet, but also on emotional and mental health too.
Making sure to exercise every day, keeping well balanced, healthy diet as well as spending quality time with my family - all contributes to my well-being.
Has your perception of self-care changed, particularly with the events of last year?
3 years ago I have decided to change my whole lifestyle and focus on healthy living. But really in the last year, being faced by pandemic, I’ve found plenty of time to do things I’ve never thought about earlier.
I start looking after my sleep, start reading books, taking time in the mornings and slowing down in the evenings. After couple of months I realised how huge impact on my well-being had all of those small changes.
What are some of the misconceptions around self-care?
That self-care is selfish - I personally think it’s a huge misconception. If you always put yourself at the very end of your priority list, that means you not only are neglecting yourself, but you’re also neglecting everyone who relies on you.
A turning point for me was a time that I’ve become a mum. I was so focused on looking after my kids I forgot to look after myself. When I got to the point, where I was so exhausted I couldn’t be a mum my kids deserve, I realised something must change.
I rethink what has gone wrong and realised I am not looking after myself anymore. Not taking enough rest, not eating well, not having enough time purely for myself. Once I realised what was happening I started focusing on small things that I could do only for myself.
What are some of your favourite self-caring activities/self-care routine or affirmations?
- Exercising at least 30min a day - it boost my energy and helps me keep going for the rest of my day.
- Slow mornings with my coffee - I am a coffee addict (haha) and I always try to get up before kids so I can enjoy my cup of coffee in peace.
- Burning my favourite candle in the evening and having a warm bath - this is a time where I calm down after a busy day and prepare myself for peaceful night.
- Reading a book - I always read a book before sleep.
- Cooking a fancy dinner - I absolutely love cooking healthy dishes and it really gives me plenty of joy if I can prepare one of my favourite dishes for my family.
How do you make sure you’re regularly prioritising self-care?
It simply stays on my every day to-do list and it’s non-negotiable.
Why is it so important to keep going even when you’re feeling better in yourself?
When I start looking after myself I also started to feel as good as I didn’t feel for a very long time. Since then I knew there is no turning back. I wanted to feel that way as often as possible and I decided that I will be taking care of myself consistently.